45 Life Lessons


My sweet neighbor emailed the following to me today…..smile…..life is what it is!!!!!

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio

To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.
It is the most requested column I’ve ever written.  My odometer rolled over to
90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will.  Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.   But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie.  Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25 No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Thank You!


Today as I lay around and enjoy the long weekend, I have to reflect on the reason for this holiday. At this very moment young men and women are risking their lives to keep me safe. Some have given the ultimate sacrifice so that I can live the life of freedom.

We have several friends whose sons are in Iraq today. They are in constant prayer for their sons yet are so proud that they have chosen this path. How selfish I feel!

Today should be a time of solemn reflection on some of the most sacred of human ideals: Faith, family, duty, commitment, heroism and honor. We are so profoundly indebted to all those soldiers, Marines, sailors and airmen who have given their lives defending us.  This Memorial Day let’s take a few minutes and say a prayer for our troops and remember those that gave their lives.

“Lord, hold our troops in your loving hands. Protect them as they protect us. Bless them and their families for the selfless acts they perform for us in our time of need. Amen.”

My Thanks X’s 10

A sweet friend posted Thanks X’s 10 on her blog to help her focus on the positive things in life.  So here the things I am grateful for today….can I stop at 10?! What are you grateful for today?


  1. All my children and grandbabies live here and are happy and healthy.
  2. My husband loves me.
  3. I have a garden and 6 tomatoes!
  4. Flowers make me happy!
  5. My daughter is my best friend
  6. My best friend is like my sister.
  7. I have several best friends.
  8. My son likes to hang out with me.
  9. My grand-daughter loves to play with me.
  10. I have turtles and they come to the back door for me to feed them!


Oh and of course I couldn’t stop at 10…….

11.  A little family of mallards have made our yard their home. We feed them bread every night and the husband mallard always lets his little prego wife eat first. Ahh…..true love!!


Motherhood, Part 2

This Mother’s Day weekend I got to keep my sweet grand babies while their mommy and daddy went to Dallas for a convention and hopefully some well deserved time-away. It is funny how fast the role of mother to young children comes back to you. It is like riding a bike…you just don’t pedal as fast! We both (Peepaw and I) have a new respect for our daughter and son-in-law. Our sweet little grand-daughter woke up throwing up, so I was up all night and still had to take care of a baby that was cutting teeth. The difference is that we might be tired but we get to send them home. My daughter does this everyday NOT just for a weekend. While I was up at 5am, I checked my email and the following came from Grandparents.com. I couldn’t think of anything more appropriate for this Mother’s Day! I remember when I had my babies and how I had a whole new respect for my mom. By the way, if I haven’t told you lately Summer, I think you are a wonderful mother and am so very proud of you! Happy Mother’s Day, friends!

When You’re the Mom of a Mother

by Beverly Beckham

When my older daughter became a mother nearly six years ago, I became a grandmother with a brand-new baby to love. But I also became a different kind of mother to my baby. I was useful again. I knew things. I understood. And the most important thing I understood was how much my daughter loved her child.

Ten months later, my younger daughter gave birth to her firstborn. “Did you feel this way, Mom? Isn’t it amazing? I never knew. Was I as cute?”

Motherhood, part two. That’s what grandparenting really is. Your kids grow up, go off to school, move away. And they don’t need you anymore. They don’t call for advice. And you think, you’re done. That’s it. The job is finished.

And then your kids become parents and you’re suddenly back in the game. “Mom, can you?” “Dad, will you?”

When a child is placed in a woman’s arms — in a hospital, at an airport, in a lawyer’s office, and whether the child is a newborn or a 10-year-old — a woman’s life changes forever.

And so does the life of her mother.

I watch my daughters wipe noses and hands, buckle car seats, peel grapes, insist upon “please” and “thank you,” wipe up spills, dry tears, read books, blow bubbles, monitor the TV, play games, and work outside their homes. And I am struck by the rigors of mothering — how hard it is and tiring and endless, and how amazing it is that anyone signs up for this job.

And then I think, this was once my job. I did all this. “How did you do it, Mom?” my daughters ask. And they listen to my answer because I’ve been down the road they’re on now and they realize that maybe I know a few things they have yet to learn.

The mother-child connection. It changes. It evolves. It grows.

In the space between us now there is still no space. It is filled with children — theirs, but part mine. And on it goes. Mother to mother to child, this eternal bond that is recognized and honored on Mother’s Day.

My daughter and our new grandson

My daughter and our grandson, isn't she beautiful?

Me, my daughter and grandbabies!

Me, my daughter and grand babies!

Me, my mom & Mai

Me, my mom & my grand daughter a few years ago.

Deals of the day

Actually, deals of the past week! I have been watching these tin nesting boxes at Dillard’s for probably 3 months. The original price was absurd…$140, $120, & $100 ea!! Then they went 50% off….not enough. Then 75% off….still too pricey. Finally, last week Dillard’s advertised “take an additional 40% off of sale items”.  I doubted that they were still there but THEY WERE!!! So I got all 3 sizes, regularly $360 for about $50!!!!!!!! I am not re-finishing them now but might this fall. They are distressed, crackled and sooooo cool!! Do they look similar to the Pottery Barn boxes for $299????


Look familar...$299!!!!

Look familar...$299!!!!

Think I should paint mine and do the numbers??

You know how I love, love, letters….my sweet friend found these for me at Tuesday Morning! Love them!!!


Finally…..we have laughed and laughed about this! Have you got the emails with the picture of a cake at Walmart where the employee wrote exactly what the customer said on the cake? Well, this is pretty close. My son told them to put a peace sign on the cookie cake….apparently they didn’t know what a peace sign really looks like!!!

Is this a peace sign? hehehehe.........

Is this a peace sign? Upside down I guess!!! hehehehe.........

I love this boy!!!

My sweet little grandson turned the big ONE last Wednesday. We had to cancel his big party because of illness but had a small family party this weekend. He was sick with a sinus infection, eye infection and was cutting his first molar but he still had fun. He is such a good natured sweet boy! Gosh, I love this guy!!!!!

At first he was confused about the whole icing thing...he figured it out and loved the cake!

At first he was confused about the whole icing thing...he figured it out and loved the cake!